On Choosing the Name Violet

As Adam and I began dreaming of baby names, we talked about family names. During these conversations, I told Adam about my great-grandparents, “Mom Phillips” and “Daddy Clyde,” about their house with the wall of family pictures and the tree we climbed out back. I told him that they were strong Christians - that Mom Phillips, in particular, had a reputation as a prayer warrior. She was one of those people with a line to heaven that seemed more direct than the rest of us. I was very young when she developed Alzheimer’s, but I vividly remember her prayer on one of our last visits to their house. My Dad asked her to pray for our safety driving home. This prayer was tradition, but Mom Phillips had not been of a good mind during this particular visit. She didn't always remember our names or even where she was. When she prayed though... When she talked to God that morning, you would have never known she was sick. Her voice was strong and her thoughts clear. It still gives me chills thinking about that moment. I pray that I too am so focused on heavenly things that even disease cannot take this part of me. So the name “Violet” is in honor of my Great-Grandmother, Viola “Mom” Phillips. What a privilege for my daughter to bear part of her name and I pray that Violet seeks the Lord the way Mom Phillips did!

“Kay” is after my sister, Kayla. I struggle to put into words how important Kayla is to me, how she’s a part of who I am, how she’s challenged me and encouraged me. We’ve had our ups and downs as most siblings do, but she’s always been one of my favorite people. Kayla is funny, she’s real, and she’s one of the most loving people I know. During our time growing up, I was often frustrated that Kayla wouldn’t just do what we were “supposed" to do, but now it’s something I admire about her. She was always more comfortable in her skin than I felt in mine. Kayla has a tender heart and a particular gift for interacting with people who are elderly, disabled, or very young. Her love pours out and can make anyone feel like the most important person in the room. I know Violet will love her “Auntie K” and I think she will be honored to share part of her name. I pray she also shares Kayla’s confidence and love for people.

Violet Kay, we are so excited you’re here! Perhaps you’ll be just like your namesakes and perhaps very different. Either way, we hope you come to appreciate the beautiful heritage your name portrays. We love you so much and look forward to sharing this life with you!